Vicar's blog 

Here you will find the latest thoughts from our vicar Mark


Born sleeping or gone too soon

9-15 October marks Baby Loss Awareness Week, where we mark the lives of babies who died in pregnancy, at or soon after birth and in infancy. Many people in our church family have been touched by the tragedy of miscarriage, stillbirth, abortion or cot death. All of us know people who carry the grief of these events with them for the rest of their lives. Some of them have never shared their pain, but I am hugely thankful that we live in a climate where it is increasingly normal to share your own story with others.

Early in my ministry we were invited to lunch with a family. When I went to the loo, I noticed a family tree next to the sink. On closer inspection, it revealed that their youngest child was a twin, whose brother died shortly before birth. This was a key thing to know about this family, revealed very sensitively to anyone who was interested. Their dead child was very much a part of the family, remembered and cherished along with his siblings. On Facebook this week it has been very moving to see others who mark their children’s too-short lives in their own personal ways.

Let me tell you about Victoria. Victoria was born in the early 1960s, the second of Griselda’s children with her first husband. When she was about three weeks old, Victoria fell asleep in her crib and never woke up. Griselda was utterly shattered and overwhelmed with grief. About a month after Victoria’s death, Griselda’s husband and father both told her never to talk about her again, that she had to get on with life and not dwell on her loss. This was the early 1960s, a generation raised with a stiff upper lip, to keep calm and carry on in the face of adversity. Griselda was never able to grieve her beloved daughter properly, but she never forgot her. In later life she would speak about her, never lasting longer than a minute before tears were rolling down her face.

After Griselda’s death in 2006, her son Dan found Victoria’s crib in the loft. It was the only thing she kept of her daughter; there are no photos of her or any of the other things people keep to remind them of their baby days. When the family scattered Griselda’s ashes, they also scattered those of Victoria’s crib, to mark their reuniting and the end of the terrible grief which ate her from the inside. Why am I telling this story? Because Victoria was my sister and Griselda my mother.

Thank God that we live in different times, where mums and dads alike can share the pain of their losses. As we mark Wave of Light in church on Monday 15 October, we also give space to those who continue to suffer in silence and we recognise that as a society we still have a long way to go. I think of one young woman who shared with me the pain of having aborted her child after s/he was diagnosed with a disability. Because she did not regret her decision, she felt she had no right to mourn her child. I told her how wrong she was, that she was not disqualified from the pain and loss of that little person and all she had hoped for just because she had made that choice. We can embrace people affected by abortion, which remains one of the greatest taboo subjects to talk about, without offering judgement.

Jesus insisted the little children be brought to him and he put them at the centre of his work. He brings hope, healing and comfort to those who mourn. As his people we sit in the dust and ashes with those who struggle and suffer with the grief of those born sleeping or gone too soon.

Mark Wallace, 11/10/2018


Halloween and the reason for the season

Go shopping at this time of year and it’s hard to avoid Halloween. Over the last generation it’s become a major commercial festival; last year UK consumers spent around £320 million on it.

Over the years the Christian response to Halloween has been varied. Many Christians want nothing to do with it. They argue that there is nothing to celebrate in darkness, witches, horror and devils. Christian parents find themselves torn by ‘everyone else’s children’ enjoying dressing up, trick or treating and eating buckets of sweets. Lots of churches now run light parties to give children and young people a more positive and life-giving message at Halloween. This year we are giving people the choice of a fantastic light party at Christ Church Woking or a big community event in Old Woking. We hope to run something ourselves next year.

I’ve been talking to SMOB Youth Minister Dave Doran, who thinks we may be missing a trick by not returning to our roots. After all, Halloween is a festival which has a long history in the Christian calendar: All Hallow’s Eve (or All Saints’ Eve), the night before All Saints’ Day. Allhallowtide is a three-day festival which goes back well over a thousand years, covering All Saints’ Eve, All Saints’ Day and All Souls’ Day. On those days we remember the dead, martyrs, saints and the ‘faithful departed’.

Just as churches have a lot to say about light and positivity, we also have fantastic stories to tell about those who have gone to glory before us. If you think the people of SMOB are great, imagine being in a church filled with all of them from 1907 to the present day! I think we would be bowled over by everything God has done among us.
There would also be all sorts of ‘random’ connections. My grandparents spent many holidays in the 1950s and 60s smuggling Bibles to Christians in Franco’s Spain. I feel sure there will be a connection to the evangelical churches in Spain today, and thus to our mission partners the Yanez family in Malaga. Of course, in God’s economy there are is no randomness, no coincidence. He has amazing plans and a big picture for all of our lives.

Can I encourage you, then, to remember the faithful departed this Halloween and All Saints’ Day (or maybe we could even reclaim the name ‘Allhallowtide’)? Let’s be intentional about thanking God for those who have gone before us and asking the Holy Spirit to stir up the same gifts in his people today. That way we won’t just be responding defensively to the darkness we see around us; we won’t even be painting a brighter and more positive picture; we’ll be telling our own powerful story and recovering the reason for the season.

Mark Wallace, 11/10/2018


What I read in my summer holidays

This week thousands of schoolchildren are starting a new year armed with summer projects about what they did in their holidays. Not wanting to be left out, I thought I would share my holiday reading! I hope one or more of these will tickle your fancy.

The Sense of an Ending by Julian Barnes
This had been sitting on my shelf for a couple of years before I finally picked it up. Julian Barnes won the Man Booker Prize with it a few years ago, and it’s a compelling read – I read it in one sitting. It’s the story of a man in his 60s who has his steady, comfortable life thrown upside down by a revelation about an event from his 20s. I found myself thinking about how we construct our own past and the stories we tell about ourselves. How much of our own thinking would be open to question if new facts emerged? What and whom have I left behind from my past? A really interesting and provocative book, which ties up its various mysteries very quickly – I had to re-read the last few pages several times to understand the conclusion.

Dethroning Mammon by Justin Welby
How does someone as busy as the Archbishop of Canterbury find time to write a book? Putting that question aside, I am grateful for his 2017 Lent book on money. We are blessed with an Archbishop who is an excellent communicator and who handles the Bible well. He encourages his readers to think of money as a person – he dubs it Mammon – and challenges us to work through the ways it can become an idol for Christians. It’s another short book but a very helpful one – well worth engaging with prayerfully during a period such as Lent (but you don’t need to wait until then).

A New Day by Emma Scrivener
The subtitle of this excellent book is Moving on from hunger, anxiety, control, shame, anger and despair. Emma Scrivener is a vicar’s wife and a survivor of anorexia, who describes her fight against the disease in her unforgettable first book A New Name. A New Day is partly an account of her next steps, but more importantly it provides a toolkit for thinking through all sorts of mental illnesses from eating disorders to OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) and addiction. It’s a brilliant resource to dip into and it will stay on my bookshelf ready for when I need it – not a time I am looking forward to. It’s vital that anyone with an interest in pastoral work thinks through issues of mental health, and particularly conditions with which you are less familiar. There is very little Christian literature about eating disorders; Emma Scrivener is blazing a very important trail here. I should declare an interest: I went to theological college with Emma and her husband Greg.

Pigs in Heaven by Barbara Kingsolver
I read Kingsolver’s brilliant novel Flight Behaviour earlier this year, having read her bestseller The Poisonwood Bible several years ago. Pigs in Heaven dates back to the early 1990s but the writing is as luminous and distinctive as both the others. Like a lot of good fiction, it introduces a subject I would never have thought about: what happens when a Native American child is adopted by a white mother. The USA has laws designed to protect Native American tribal identity and culture, and to prevent irregular adoptions outside the tribes. Through the eyes of single mum Taylor and her daughter Turtle unfolds a story which becomes part road trip, part intergenerational family saga, with a little Thelma and Louise thrown in. If you’ve never read any Barbara Kingsolver, you definitely should.

The Child’s Child by Barbara Vine
Ruth Rendell’s alias Barbara Vine is always worth a read. This book tackles the early-20th-century taboos around childbirth outside wedlock and homosexuality. It exposes a world where choices were very limited and the negative social and legal consequences of your decisions could last your whole life. Vine constructs a story within a story; her present-day framing narrative is less satisfying than the ‘lost’ novel at the centre. The thing that has stayed with me is the grubbiness and fear connected to being an outsider between the wars, whether you had become pregnant without being married or you were gay. She also paints a picture of a woman who grows bitter through the choices she has made; again this made me think about the stories we tell about ourselves and how we can become victims of a negative narrative of our own making.


Mark Wallace, 03/09/2018


Reading our times 

The apostle Peter writes, ‘Dear friends, I urge you, as aliens and strangers in the world, to abstain from sinful desires, which war against your soul’ (1 Peter 2:11). Generations of Christians have taken seriously the call to be aliens and strangers in the world. In the sixteenth and seventeenth centuries the Puritans had lives which looked radically different from the world around them.

These days most Christians are so immersed in our culture that we struggle to live distinctive lives. We consume media uncritically, without asking any questions of the music we listen to, the films and TV programmes we watch, the newspapers, books and magazines we read or the social media we use. We take information at face value far too readily, in an age where the 24-hour news cycle means that what we consume often has less basis in reality than ever before. 'Fake news' anyone?

Take Brexit for example (I hesitate to mention it!). Recently we were being told by many news outlets that the government’s new blueprint was falling apart and that they could not get any legislation through parliament. This was pronounced even as the government won numerous votes, albeit very narrowly, demonstrating that they could get things through at a moment where lots of people were saying they could not. Our media is quick to pronounce gloom and doom, because crisis is a better story than things progressing well; it does not mean it is true. My 98-year-old granny, who survived the Blitz, often says we would never have won World War Two if we had today’s grim media.

Can I encourage you to approach our media as an ‘alien and stranger’? Ask some basic questions of everything you consume: What is the key message? What facts are being assumed? What are you not being told? Who is being portrayed positively and who negatively: is there a ‘goodie’ or a ‘baddie’? Our media’s simplistic portrayal of President Trump as a ‘baddie’ does not help us to understand what is actually happening in the USA or why people voted for him; many people voted on single issues or simply could not bring themselves to vote for Hillary Clinton.

When you scratch the surface there is often much more to our culture than meets the eye. Underneath many stories of young children dying in their homes is a deeper narrative of abuse, depression or suicide which is rarely presented. Underneath a hit movie like The Greatest Showman is a powerful set of assumptions about the positive influence of diversity, tolerance and equality, values which dominate our culture. There is no single ‘Christian view’ of all these things, just a way of consuming them which requires more effort and critical thought than many of us are used to spending.

Mark Wallace, 26/07/2018


What does it mean 'to be community'? 

At SMOB our vision is God’s transforming people in our parish: to love Jesus, to serve and tell others, to be community. What, then, does it mean to be community? I was brought up in the north London suburb of East Finchley, where there wasn’t a strong sense of community. Our corner of Woking can look like that at first glance. Where is our community? How can we promote a stronger local community? If people need to belong before they believe, we need to make people feel like they belong among us.

In East Finchley some community-spirited individuals made a difference, starting a community festival in our local park. All the local groups came together in the biggest open space which belonged to the community. Not long afterwards, a local free paper started, reporting with wry humour the events on ‘Pigeon Corner’ outside Budgen’s, and the perils of Bertie Bollard, who kept getting crushed by articulated lorries coming round the corner. We discovered that, where there isn’t an obvious community, you have to promote your own.

Scratch the surface in Mount Hermon ward and you discover some signs of true community. Local residents had street parties for the royal wedding a few years ago. Neighbours know each other. As the biggest public building in our parish, we have real opportunities to build community, but we will need to put the work in. We have good form here in the shape of Bethany Babes and CAMEO, which have each served generations at either end of the age spectrum. On 7 July local churches are running a stall at Party in the Park; a great opportunity to expose our church communities to our local community. People need to know about the activities we run, and they need the space to get involved. 

One of the ways we can build community in the longer term is to think about what we want from our building. We have started a consultation, we have some money and we aim to have plans that we like by the end of 2019. Our buildings are our biggest physical asset; how can we use them to build community and draw people in? What space do we need, to start up different groups and activities, or give more room to local groups? We aim to start dipping our toes in the water in months to come, starting with England’s World Cup game next week (and, if we win, the rest of England’s games). We’ve invested in our audio-visual, so why not start using it for more than our Sunday services? Let’s be talking to friends and neighbours in the parish to see what they want.

Psalm 133 has a tenuous connection to our local area as it talks about ‘the dew of Hermon’. It begins, ‘How good and pleasant it is when brothers live together in unity!’ There is power in unity and in a truly inclusive and transformational community where everyone can belong. We do this so well as a church; let’s pray that we can bring it to more and more people.

Mark Wallace, 28/06/2018


Dirty Glory and the power of prayer 

‘Seven days without prayer makes one weak.’ So goes the old board spotted outside many a church. As Christians we know the importance of prayer. Yet often we struggle to pray. We get into tired routines. We reel off cosmic shopping lists of requests for God. We find our prayers are restricted to a quick cry for help in a moment of distress, or when we can’t find a parking space.

I was challenged to think again about prayer by reading Pete Greig’s excellent book Dirty Glory. Greig is the founder of the 24/7 prayer movement and the Pastor of Emmaus Road church in Guildford. His previous book Red Moon Rising charts the first five years of 24/7; his second book God on Mute is probably the single most useful book I have for pastoral work. In it he explores the conundrum of unanswered prayer, and the times in life when God seems distant or even absent.

Dirty Glory is full of miraculous stories (which come with the caveat that they are not the norm in Christian life, and cover a large number of people over a long time). There’s a woman who finds a huge amount of money in her cleaning cupboard, which she knows no one could have put there. When she removes it, more appears; this happens several times. We read of healings and God’s unmistakeable calling to new places. And this is all surrounded by the reality of a Christian community praying as though their lives depended on it.

The challenge for us at St Mary of Bethany is to be a community that prays like we mean it. My sense is that our prayer lives as individuals are stronger than our corporate prayer life. If we are going to grasp the challenge of being God’s transforming people in Woking: to love Jesus, to serve and tell others, to be community, we will need to be alive to prayer. We will need to intercede with God powerfully. We will need to listen to him. We will need to unleash the power and presence of the Holy Spirit at every opportunity. We will need to pray into our situation as a church: is there something restricting us? What is holding us back?

May I encourage you to use all the resources we have to offer? Our monthly prayer diary is excellent and covers every area of our work and mission. There’s something powerful about the whole church praying for the same thing every day. We have a Prayer Warriors email list where we share urgent prayer requests. Every month we have either a Prayer and Praise service on a Sunday evening or a Wednesday evening Central Prayer Meeting. All our Sunday services include the opportunity to pray with other people.

As you pray, invite God to transform your heart and empower our life together as a church. Spend time listening to him through his word in the Bible, and asking his Holy Spirit to speak to you. Share what you hear. God wants to do amazing things through us!

Dirty Glory is published by Hodder, priced £9.99, and is available at our local Christian bookshop Origin at Christ Church Woking.

Mark Wallace, 01/06/2018


Christians transforming communities

‘Then the righteous will answer him, “Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?”
‘The King will reply, “I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.”’
  Matthew 25:37-40

Recently I visited Woking Foodbank for the first time. It is one of St Mary of Bethany’s proudest achievements that we give more to the Foodbank than any other not-for-profit organisation. Not just that, but the thing they value most is that we keep closely in touch with them, so that we give items which they need. If in doubt, they are always short of toiletries and washing powder!

It was striking to find that the majority of volunteers at the Foodbank come from local churches. In fact Christians are at the centre of the food bank movement all over Britain. You will find Christians driving all sorts of community projects from Street Angels to youth drop-in centres too. Did you know that the Church of England is by far the largest provider of youth work in England? Our response to the needs we see around us is built on our faith. Principally it is based on the simple truth that human beings are made in God’s image, and deserve to be treated with the respect and dignity which we would ourselves like to receive. It’s all part of loving your neighbour as yourself. It is also based on the idea in Matthew 25 that what we do for the needy, we do for God.

I remember an atheist MP reporting back after a visit to the flood relief operations in New Orleans after Hurricane Katrina. He was impressed by the Christian agencies and volunteers who were helping in huge numbers. He wondered where the atheist and humanist organisations were in the aid efforts.

Christian faith galvanizes people because it is driven by compassion and the recognition that hard times can come to anyone. When I have made bad choices in my life, I have had the resources to put things right. Many people are not so fortunate; for many at Woking Foodbank, a bad choice can make the difference between being able to shop for food and going hungry. Many of us take for granted the fact that we were brought up by loving parents in a safe, stable home environment. For many of the poorest in our society this is not so.

We have a great story to tell when it comes to Christian involvement in our local community. And we can ask questions of others: without a belief in God, or a faith that people have intrinsic dignity because they are made in his image, why should anyone help another person? If we are all random collisions of atoms, how can anything be said to be ‘good’ or ‘bad’? As Jesus’ people in the places he is placing us, we bring him to everything we do, and we see his transforming presence in others.

Mark Wallace, 30/04/2018


What is church for? 

Most people have no idea what a church does. If you don’t believe me, ask a non-Christian friend. They might have a vague idea of what a Sunday looks like (although if you probe this, you will find it’s generally based on something between EastEnders and The Vicar of Dibley); but they will lack any insight into the seven-day-a-week ministry of the average parish church.
This was brought home to me some time ago by a committed church member who had been talking to a friend about bereavement. The church member was talking about the holistic, wrap-around care that the church provides to bereaved people, from planning and delivering a funeral to follow-up and pastoral care which can go on indefinitely. The friend was surprised, not realising that a church would cover anything other than the service. When the church member explored this further, his friend had no awareness of homegroups, work with children and young people, ministry to senior adults or any of the other things the church was running.
This reinforced something for me that I have believed for a long time: churches do not need to launch lots of new ministry or do things in radical new ways. What churches need to do much more is to tell their stories, simply to paint a picture of what our life as a family looks like. Thirty years ago many people would have had some idea of this; now they really don’t.
So can I encourage you to think about our life together as a church. What is it that you particularly value? What ministries are you involved in and why? What difference does church make in your life? If you are prepared to talk about these things with non-Christian friends, you will be surprised at the interesting conversations that will result.
If you want your faith to impact the people around you, you don’t necessarily need to be able to explain the gospel in five minutes or less (although this is a very good thing to be able to do!). You don’t need to be one of those natural evangelists who can turn any conversation into a challenge about Jesus. You just need to be able to tell your story. Why does your faith matter to you? What does it look like? What does our life together look like and why is that something you value? These things are personal to you and they are very hard to argue with. People can say the gospel isn’t true; they can’t say that your faith doesn’t matter to you.


Our church's new vision statement unpacked 

Last week I launched the new vision statement for SMOB: God’s transforming people in our parish: To love Jesus, to serve others, to be community. Our last vision statement lasted fourteen years and helped us to define who we are today. I hope this one will help us to do the same. It talks about who we are and who we want to be.
Let’s think about transformation. Christians believe that we have been transformed by an encounter with Jesus. Some people experience this at a very deep level at conversion, perhaps by being healed of an illness or addiction. For many of us it is a much more gradual process: God is transforming us through his Holy Spirit, but he isn’t finished yet! At SMOB we are a community where people are transformed, in worship, in discipleship, by encountering Jesus for the first time themselves. ‘God’s transforming people’ has a double meaning: we are God’s transforming people and God is transforming people with us.
Why does our vision statement talk about ‘our parish’? Because it’s where we are rooted. This slightly haphazard corner of Woking runs from the tower block and Tesco, down along Goldsworth Road, all the way over to Barnsbury, up to the Hoe Stream and Woking Park. Our people share the ‘cure of souls’ for our parish. Only 40% of the regular worshippers at SMOB live in our parish, but we have a responsibility to the many people here who do not yet know Jesus. As we planned this vision, we talked about saying ‘Woking’ instead of ‘our parish’, but felt that other churches might feel that they are God’s transforming people too!
Three aims go with our vision. Firstly, the key to everything we do: to love Jesus. If we lose track of our faith in Christ, we will just be a cosy club with nothing distinctive to say to our world. We bring the good news of Jesus’ resurrection: there is forgiveness of sins through his work at the cross, there is a fresh start and hope for the future.
Next, to serve and tell others. When we reach Holy Week later this month, we will remember Jesus’ actions at the Last Supper. There, he got down on his knees and did the most menial job anyone could have done: he washed his disciples’ filthy feet. Then he told them to do the same for others. We are called to radical acts of service for others, and we believe in telling them about Jesus too. Our service will only make a real difference if we can tell people our story. As we show others God’s love and tell them what we believe, they will come to know Jesus for themselves.
Finally, to be community. Our church is justifiably known for the strength and warmth of its community. We embrace all sorts of people at every age and stage of life. This has not happened by accident; it has been the work of generations of worshippers here. We need to continue to work hard to build community and open it up to others.
If you’re a member of SMOB, please commit to praying about your part in our vision. God’s transforming people in our parish: To love Jesus, to serve and tell others, to be community.

Mark Wallace, 06/03/2018


The challenge of the poor

The church is failing the poor and we are not willing to face the many challenges that poverty presents us. Recently I was challenged by an article by a colleague working in a tough area of the country, and this was the broad thrust of his argument. I think it applies to us here at SMOB.
Although we live in leafy Surrey, there are many pockets of poverty and deprivation on our patch. In conversation with a local headteacher recently, it was apparent that a significant number of children come to school having had no breakfast, with parents who struggle to get out of bed themselves, due to health or addiction issues.
And here is the problem: as a capable, well-resourced professional, church meets my needs by preaching the gospel and providing a strong, caring community of faith. People in poverty have much more complex needs. Their lives can be chaotic, with unreliable incomes, poor physical and mental health and unstable family situations. Is it any wonder that churches feel more confident in dealing with people whose needs are straightforward, than with people whose needs we find overwhelming? In any church, a few people with major pastoral needs can take a huge amount of time, energy and effort for those helping them.
Yet God calls us to walk with the poor and that means working to meet their needs. James 2:15–16 says, ‘Suppose a brother or sister is without clothes and daily food. If one of you says to them, “Go, I wish you well; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about his physical needs, what good is it?’ Faced with the complicated needs of struggling Christians, Jesus calls us to get stuck in. We have a track record of this at SMOB: think about our Hope weekends on Barnsbury over the years. I suspect, though, that many of us are afraid of the darkness and chaos which often surrounds those struggling with poverty. Are we prepared to walk into church on Sunday and see our rows filled with people who don’t look like us, who say the wrong thing or smell a bit funny? If church is your ‘safe place’, might God be calling you to something a bit more edgy?
As I prepare to launch the new vision statement and plan for SMOB on Sunday 25 February, we need to recognise the positive impact we can make on poorer people on our patch if we can overcome our fears. Many people are struggling alone, without the resources and confidence that we can provide together. Church can seem remote, alien and intimidating to them. Let’s pray and ask God to show us how we can reach across the barriers of class and life experience, so that we can really make a difference to all kinds of people.


New Year, new you?

Happy New Year! And welcome to my new blog. Each month, or more frequently from time to time, I’ll be giving you my thoughts on anything and everything that takes my fancy.
It’s the time of year when the newspapers and magazines are full of ‘New Year, new you’ articles. Since my days in book publishing, I’ve always been amused to see who’s jumping on the bandwagon with a January book about diet or lifestyle. My favourite recently was Tom Daley’s book. What do you think his tips would be? Be a professional athlete? Train for six hours a day?
From time to time everyone’s spiritual life needs a bit of reviving. Finding the right rhythm of rest, reflection, time alone and time with God is key for all of us. My own practice has developed over a number of years and is the scaffolding around which all of my work gets done. I get away for a retreat once a year, typically for four or five days. I sometimes go to a retreat centre; these are generally in very quiet, rural places, with good food and people who can help guide your time. I have generally spent time on my own up till now; next month I go on a guided retreat for the first time. Every other year I go on a conference which acts as a retreat. It’s a combination of spiritual input and time with friends, which does me the power of good.
As well as retreat time, I put aside time for a quiet day once a month. It’s deliberately frequent: if I only take a quiet day every two or three months and miss one for whatever reason, it leaves a long gap between them and puts a lot of pressure on the day. If I have one in the diary every month, I can relax and use it as I choose. Sometimes I pray, other times I go for a walk or a bike ride, but generally I try to be away from home.
The other regular part of my schedule is meeting with a Spiritual Director, which I do every couple of months. This is a space to talk things through and pray with an experienced, older Christian leader, who often brings a different perspective from my own.
You may well be reading this thinking that your work or your family commitments would never allow you to take time out like this. That might be true, but everyone can think of ways to do something outside your normal routine. You don’t have to do any of the things I do; different things work for different people. For some, the idea of being away in a plain room in the countryside will help them connect with God straight away; for others, time with other people doing something fun is what helps. The important thing is to build in regular time away from your normal environment, to spend time with God and reflect on where you are in life. Just the thought of getting off life’s treadmill every now and then is likely to do you good. What can you do to give yourself that space this year?

Mark Wallace, 08/01/2018